What is perfectionism?
with perfectionism hold themselves to impossibly high standards. They think what
they do is never good enough.
people mistakenly believe that perfectionism is a healthy motivator, but that’s
not the case. Perfectionism can make you feel unhappy with your life. It can lead
to depression, anxiety, eating disorders, and self-harm. Eventually, it can
also lead you to stop trying to succeed. Even mild cases can interfere with your
quality of life, affecting your personal relationships, education, or work.
Perfectionism can affect young
people as well as adults. Children and teenagers are often driven to be
overachievers in their schoolwork as well as activities such as sports, clubs,
community service, and jobs. This can lead to an obsession with success. Ultimately,
it can interfere with the ability to achieve it.
are the symptoms of perfectionism?
desire to achieve is healthy. But an irrational desire to always be perfect can
may be experiencing perfectionism if you:
- feel like you fail at everything you try
- procrastinate regularly — you might resist
starting a task because you’re afraid that you’ll be unable to complete it
- struggle to relax and share your thoughts and
- become very controlling in your personal and
- become obsessed with rules, lists, and work, or
alternately, become extremely apathetic
What causes perfectionism?
cause isn’t always clear. It’s often a learned behavior. People with
perfectionism believe that they’re valuable only because of what they achieve
or what they do for other people.
settings can bring out perfectionism in young people.
How is perfectionism treated?
part of your perfectionism, you may strive to hide your personal problems. This
can make it harder to treat. But remember, it’s important to seek help when you
need it. If perfectionism is interfering with your ability to live a full and
happy life, speak to your doctor or a mental health professional. If you’re
thinking of harming yourself or others, seek emergency medical attention.
especially cognitive-behavioral therapy, may help you learn new ways of
thinking about your goals and achievements. A therapist may help address your
need for acceptance or reduce your reactions to negative feedback.
How can you avoid perfectionism?
lessen perfectionism, it may help to:
- set realistic, attainable goals
- break up overwhelming tasks into small steps
- focus on one activity or task at a time
- acknowledge that everyone makes mistakes
- recognize that most mistakes present learning opportunities
- confront fears of failure by remaining realistic about possible
If you suspect that
perfectionism is interfering with your well-being, speak to your doctor. They
may recommend therapy or other strategies to help manage your symptoms.